To Stay or to Go? That is the Question!
Tuesday, February 28th, 2012
Many people think that couples go to therapy in order to save their relationship, but this is not always the case. Sometimes I help couples break up. As strange as this might sound, we may need support to end a relationship, because breaking up can be hard!
Practice “Doggy Medicine” for a Happy Relationship
Sunday, February 12th, 2012
Recently I’ve been talking a lot with my couples about practicing what I call “doggy medicine.” Doggy medicine can apply to almost anyone, regardless of whether you own a dog (or your dog owns you!) or there is no dog in your life.
This Holiday Give Yourself and Your Partner the Gift of your Presence
Thursday, November 10th, 2011
Is your relationship drowning in “to-do’s”? Learn about the power of connection rituals and how to be a “Human Be-ing” instead of just a “Human Do-ing”. Find out about “the Neurobiology of We” and how mindfulness can increase empathy and trust…
How Lack of the “Straight Safety Net” Creates Stress for Queer Couples
Monday, March 21st, 2011
In this article I will explore two strands of the “straight safety net”—heteronormative assumptions and heterosexual privilege—and how these create often unacknowledged stress for queer couples. Following are three different scenarios from my sessions with queer couples that exemplify some of these common stressors.
Super Negotiating for Couples
Tuesday, June 15th, 2010
Learn to negotiate so you can effectively handle conflict. All healthy relationships need conflict to grow however many people are afraid of conflict because they don’t know how to negotiate. Learn how to create “win-win” situations with effective negotiating skills. Good negotiation will also vastly improve your communication skills.
Helping Couples to Get Out of Negative Cycles
Monday, September 14th, 2009
I am often asked how I work with couples. This is probably as varied as the couples that I see, who are queer, alternative and traditional. However, if I had to pick a common area of focus, I would say it is to help couples free themselves from the claws of the negative cycles that they get caught in.
