‘Therapy Bytes’ Spring 2015 Ezine
‘Therapy Bytes’ Quarterly
~ for the Therapy Savvy + Therapy Curious Reader
In This Issue
- Article: What is “secure attachment” and how does not having it create fertile grounds for addictions?
- What is my intern Rachel Gibbs up to?
- Astrology Eye
What is “secure attachment” and how does not having it create fertile grounds for addictions?
Human beings have a longer period of dependency on their caregivers than any other mammal. We depend on our caregivers not just for food and safety but also emotional connection, affection and love. When there is strong emotional connection and love between infant and caregiver we call this “secure attachment.” Baby knows that they can turn to their caregiver for comfort and care in times of distress. They know they have a safe haven in this big world. They feel emotionally connected with the caregiver and therefore safe. This also helps with the regulation of their nervous systems and, as the Minnesota studies (some of the first attachment research on young children done in the States) showed, helps them to excel in every area:
Children with secure attachment histories scored higher in every area, from ego resilience, to self-esteem, to independence, to the ability to enjoy themselves and respond positively to other children. (1)
We are wired to need secure attachment, not just for our survival but also for optimal brain development.
Here is what it looks like when secure attachment doesn’t happen:
Read more here…
What has my intern Rachel Gibbs been up to?
Rachel has been busy… See below for her most recent articles, groups + more..
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Recent Articles + Events:
- New LGBT Breakup Support Group Starting April 23rd: Click here for more…
- FunSexFact for your HumpDay! Click here for more…
- You Can Now Follow Me on Instagram!
- The 3 Stages of Couple Development & How You Can Make Yours Better: Clicking for more…
- Feeling Uncomfortable = Change: Click here for more…
The Uranus Pluto square was exact in the Skywatch on Mar 16. This is the last of seven exact squares between these two planets that began in the Spring of 2012. This square has been a catalyst for enormous change worldwide starting with the Arab Spring. Freedom from oppression, the revelation of hidden truths and make or break situations coming to a head have all been major themes.
If this square has fallen on any of your personal planets then it has also been a time of enormous personal upheaval, major shifts, opportunities for breakthroughs and often surrendering of control as you expand beyond what you thought you were capable of…
And now for a bit of good news from one of my favorite astrologers Lance (http://skywatchastrology.com/)
Generous Jupiter lines up in a welcome trine to Uranus on Mar 3. These two will dance together in the heavens for the next few months and make one more exact trine in June. This positive aspect shows up in the heavens once every 6-7 years and signals a very good time in our lives to make changes and to awaken and explore new talents and interests. Use this Uranian energy well by experimenting and checking out new classes, places, sites and situations in March and ahead.
Enjoy Your Spring!
Ondina Nandine Hatvany, MFT
Ondina assists traditional, alternative and queer couples with an approach that combines the latest discoveries in neuroscience with powerful and effective developments in couples research. She uses an approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help her couples get past blame and shame to a place of more understanding, trust and intimacy.
As former Director of the Eating Disorders program at the Community Institute of Psychotherapy Ondina advocates a Health at Every Size (HAES) approach that empowers women to befriend their bodies.
Ondina works with trauma/ abuse survivors using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing,) hypnosis and somatic (body mindfulness) psychotherapy techniques with a high effectiveness rating.
Finally as a somatically trained psychotherapist and former yoga teacher, one of the ways she can assist you to make lasting changes is to foster body mindfulness. She uses somatic psychotherapies such as Hakomi and Somatic Experiencing to facilitate transitions and shifts that last.
Feel Free to call for a free initial phone consultation on Ondina’s confidential office line (415) 381-1065 or e-mail: Ondinah@gmail.com