Children of narcissists are often late bloomers because some of the basic building blocks for navigating the complex world of relationships and life simply aren’t there. This can also create self-esteem issues because the child of the narcissist feels something is inherently wrong with them. There is, of course, nothing wrong with them. They are [...]
"Why celebrate yet another Hallmark card holiday that is just a ploy to get us to consume more? And why make single people miserable by having a holiday like this?" wailed my client Sue. She was right, of course, and fed up. "What if you turned Valentin's Day into an excuse to celebrate LOVE? And [...]
Again and again in my work with couples I see the destructive effect criticism can have on a relationship. In this article I would like to explore what my three favorite relationship experts have to say about criticism and its effects on relationship. Drs. John & Julie Gottman The therapists who have done the most [...]
San Francisco is the third most expensive city in the USA to live in. It comes in #1 and even tops New York as the priciest USA city to rent an apartment in. With the cost of living so high, how do couples in San Francisco navigate these financial stressors along with all the other [...]
What is the secret ingredient that makes a relationship thrive? Dr. Sue Johnson, who founded EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), the most researched couples therapy model (1), has studied this question extensively. She has been able to distill the answer to this key question down to its bare essentials: What truly makes a relationship thrive and provides [...]
In his groundbreaking study using brain imaging studies,1 researcher Art Aron, the romantic love guru, proved that romantic love can last, for at least 5-12 percent of couples. He also showed that long-term couples (together 20 years or more) who reported the highest levels of romantic love and closeness on questionnaires had levels of brain [...]
Consider this surprising statistic: At least one or both parties in 50 percent of all couples, married and living together, straight and gay, will break their vows of sexual or emotional exclusivity during the lifetime of the relationship.
Many people think that couples go to therapy in order to save their relationship, but this is not always the case. Sometimes I help couples break up. As strange as this might sound, we may need support to end a relationship, because breaking up can be hard!
Recently I’ve been talking a lot with my couples about practicing what I call “doggy medicine.” Doggy medicine can apply to almost anyone, regardless of whether you own a dog (or your dog owns you!) or there is no dog in your life.