Relationship Counseling

Working with Troubled Relationships

Tired of going around in the same old circular arguments? Worse, have you completely stopped communicating with your partner? Do you wonder where the love, trust and intimacy have gone? I work with couples/ partners to get out of the stuck places, negative ruts and reactive arguments faster and more effectively.

How I Work

Using the latest discoveries in neuroscience, combined with powerful and effective developments in relationship research, I use an eclectic approach that combines the work of Dr Sue Johnson (founder of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy), the Couples Therapy Institute (one of the top couples therapy institutes in the country), Dr Dan Siegel (leading neuroscientist/researcher) and Dr Stan Tatkin PsyD (clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® PACT) It is possible to move through the roadblocks and obstacles to better communication and greater understanding. Rediscover and deepen your connection to your partner by learning how to navigate difficult conversations and feelings effectively.

What is EFT and Why Use it?

I have trained in several of the most effective modalities for helping relationships. The main lens I use however is EFT because the research shows that it works.

EFT stands for Emotionally Focused Therapy. It was developed by Dr Sue Johnson. Research shows that 90% of couples report significant improvement within 12-20 sessions of EFT. Two years after couples therapy, studies show that 80% have maintained their gains, and 60% are doing even better!  Compare this to other couples therapies, for which these figures are 35% and 20%.

EFT is the only couples therapy to receive the top rating by the American Psychological Association as empirically validated: more than twice as effective, and longer lasting. If this is your relationship then it’s important to go with the best, try EFT and see for yourself.

A Major Cost Saver

Take care of your relationship impasses and conflicts sooner rather than later. If you wait until they have reached crisis or boiling point, the motivation to do the repair work might be higher, but it will usually take longer and cost more. Dealing with issues now is a big cost saver both emotionally and financially!

Call for an initial free no obligation phone consultation so I can answer your questions and concerns. Ondina Nandine Hatvany, MFT at (415) 381-1065 (confidential office line) or email

Download PDF article on “How to Get the Most from Relationship Therapy”

Communication 101

Learn communication skills that move beyond “right” or “wrong” to a place of understanding. Learn how to negotiate any situation regardless of how polarized you and your partner have become on the issue. Successful negotiation doesn’t mean agreeing with your partner either! Pain and trauma can interfere with creating the relationship you want. Learn how to recognize when you’re triggered so that you can ask for what you need. Move beyond simply reacting to your partner to a place of empowerment where you choose how you want to respond.

“Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” – Rumi

Email Ondina at for a free, no obligation, 15 min discovery call.