‘Therapy Bytes’ Summer 2014 Ezine

What Do Top Relationship Experts Have to Say About The Effects of Criticism on Relationship?


Again and again in my work with couples I see the destructive effect criticism can have on a relationship. In this article I would like to explore what my three favorite relationship experts have to say about criticism and its effects on relationship.

Drs. John & Julie Gottman
The therapists who have done the most research on the effects of criticism on relationships were undoubtedly Drs. John & Julie Gottman who are famous for their “love lab,”‘ in which hundreds of couples were screened, interviewed and observed over the course of two decades. As a result of their research the Gottmans could predict in under 5 minutes, with 90% accuracy, if a couple was going to stay together or divorce!

They came up with a metaphor to describe four communication styles that can predict the end of a relationship. ..

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I am proud to introduce my new intern:

93Rachel Gibbs, M.A. is a Marriage Family Therapist Intern specializing in individual, couples and group therapy, focusing primarily on couples, relationship, and sex therapy. Rachel is currently working in Private Practice in San Francisco, CA under the supervision of Nandine Hatvany, LMFT 38780.
In addition to being an experienced relationship therapist, Rachel has presented at numerous trainings sharing her therapy expertise with the LGBTQ community and to general audiences, speaking on the topics of healthy sexuality and the stages of coming out.
Rachel is an interactive, cognitive-behavioral, emotion-focused, solution-focused therapist. Her therapeutic approach is to provide support and practical feedback to help clients effectively address personal life challenges. She integrates complementary methodologies and techniques to offer a highly personalized approach tailored to each client.

Rachel is currently accepting new clients and offering low fee sessions.

Call now for a free initial phone consultation.. (650) 930-6471

To visit Rachel’s website- Click Here

The Astrology Eye

On June 7th Mercury turned retrograde
Be prepared for delays as the communication planet changes direction in Cancer before it returns to Gemini on June 17.

Mercury retrogrades three times each year for approximately 21 days at a time. While the planet of communication is going backward do not make any important purchases or sign any business deals. The Mercury retrograde period is infamous for costly mistakes!

You can also expect that there will be delays with travel or traffic and things like computers and printers might break down or need some kind of servicing.

This is a great time to finish whatever you have started. It is also a good time to do most things beginning with the letters “re”.. things like retreat, revise, revision, recuperate etc. Just wait until Mercury goes direct to implement anything!

June 12: Full Moon in Sagittarius
This full moon could be potentially explosive but loud outbursts or reactions will get you nowhere with this moon. Better to harness the energy of this moon to do things like move out of your comfort zone and explore the unfamiliar. If you have a strong vision for your life this is a good time to talk with people who can help you. The full Moon marks a harvest time for any “seeds” or plans you “planted” during the previous new Moon, which was on May 28.
Where these transits fall in your personal birthchart will show how these transits play out for you in particular.

Call Ondina for an astrology reading to see how this Summer will play out for you
(415) 381-1065 or email: ondinah@gmail.com

Ondina Nandine Hatvany, MFT

83Ondina assists traditional, alternative and queer couples with an approach that combines the latest discoveries in neuroscience with powerful and effective developments in couples research. She uses an approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help her couples get past blame and shame to a place of more understanding, trust and intimacy.

As former Director of the Eating Disorders program at the Community Institute of Psychotherapy Ondina advocates a Health at Every Size (HAES) approach that empowers women to befriend their bodies.

Ondina works with trauma/ abuse survivors using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) and somatic (body mindfulness) psychotherapy techniques with a high effectiveness rating.

As a somatically trained psychotherapist and former yoga teacher, one of the ways she can assist you to make lasting changes is to foster body mindfulness. She uses somatic psychotherapies such as Hakomi and Somatic Experiencing to facilitate transitions and shifts that last.

For those who are interested in combining Psychotherapy with Astrology, Ondina offers a unique approach using your astrological birthchart as a tool for insight and healing. While not dependent on your birthchart for answers, you can use it as a reference and to inform and enrich your understanding of the challenges you face.

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