‘Therapy Bytes’ Summer 2015 Ezine

‘Therapy Bytes’ Quarterly

~ for the Therapy Savvy + Therapy Curious Reader

In This Issue

Article: How to Navigate Dating Effectively ~ For Mature Women + Baby Boomers

CouplesWith divorce rates higher than ever before and Baby Boomers hitting their 50s, 60s and up, more and more mature women are finding themselves single and facing the choice whether to go back into the dating pool or not. Social mores and the media do not make it easy for older women. While older men are still often conveyed as sexy and desirable, older women are usually given a shelf life. While it seems to be common and socially acceptable for older men to date younger women, an older woman dating a younger guy is called a “cougar.” Why aren’t men given derogatory nicknames for doing the same thing a woman does? None of this helps, of course, when a mature woman is considering going back into the dating pool. That is why I think it is so important that women work on addressing their mindset before venturing forth into the dating world. Otherwise, it can be brutal!

I have two friends who started dating again in their 60s, and so I got to witness their whole process around dating on a very close and personal level. This is what I learned.
Read more here…

I highly recommend my colleague ~ Marion Barnett, MA MFT

~ an excellent therapist based in Marin
27a9e929-ad7d-4879-8c07-b01f7df45f0dHer is more about Marion in her own words:

I received my Masters Degree in Integral Counseling Psychology at the Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. After a career in the business world, I turned my attention to the elements of my work that moved and motivated me to be of service. From my experience in the business world and my training and experience as a therapist, I have formed a philosophy of how I work with my clients. The most important piece of my work is my understanding that we deserve to be deeply respected and heard. When we feel authentically listened to and understood the work of unraveling the current difficulties can begin to take shape and get clarified.

Each of us develops stories about our lives. These stories come from our experiences in our childhood. Many times those stories are not true yet because we believe these stories they can cause us great distress and emotional pain. As we come to understand how those stories began we can gain clarity about who we really are-that we really are ok the way we are. We have the ability to change the way we think about the difficult issues we are facing. For the last 14 years I have worked successfully with clients in resolving difficult and painful issues by assisting my clients in unraveling their stories that cause them pain in addition to teaching effective coping strategies and encouraging the use of one’s own strengths and gifts.

I work with individuals and couples with a variety of life issues. Many people come to my office with depression, panic, anxiety, loss, chronic medical issues and sexual concerns. My approach is down to earth and grounded.
You can contact Marion at this number: 415-464-0531
To see Marion’s website click here

Astrology Eye


46The last of three big trines between Jupiter and Uranus appears in the heavens on June 22. The power and the calling of this marker reaches back to matters started in Sept 2014 when the first trine came into an exact alignment.

This is a good luck transit. Because Jupiter and Uranus are both in fire signs this is an excellent time to follow your intuition and passions. Fire signs are action oriented so now is the time to take action! It is also an excellent time to dream big, implement plans, to go on that date, start that business venture… Mercury (the planet of communication) is no longer in retrograde so its full steam ahead!


A new moon in Gemini occurs on 6/16/15. This is an excellent time to plant those seeds of intention for what you want to manifest in your life. Make your new moon wishes now and see what takes sprout by the full moon in 2 weeks. Or if you are making bigger and more long term wishes plant those seeds now and see what bears fruit in future full moons…

The first 2 weeks of July are best for taking care of any business matters. On the 14/15 Mars opposes dangerous Pluto and accidents and arguments are more likely. Then on the 24/25 Mars squares unpredictable Uranus which can be a combustible time. Watch out for more extreme weather events then too. On the 25th Venus also turns retrograde which suggests its best to be careful around money and love. Things might not be what they seem and the potential for misunderstandings are high.

For more on how these transits might be effecting you in particular
call Ondina for an astrology reading (415) 381-1065

Enjoy Your Summer!

Ondina Nandine Hatvany, MFT

72Ondina assists traditional, alternative and queer couples with an approach that combines the latest discoveries in neuroscience with powerful and effective developments in couples research. She uses an approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help her couples get past blame and shame to a place of more understanding, trust and intimacy.

As former Director of the Eating Disorders program at the Community Institute of Psychotherapy Ondina advocates a Health at Every Size (HAES) approach that empowers women to befriend their bodies.
Ondina works with trauma/ abuse survivors using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing,) hypnosis and somatic (body mindfulness) psychotherapy techniques with a high effectiveness rating.

Finally as a somatically trained psychotherapist and former yoga teacher, one of the ways she can assist you to make lasting changes is to foster body mindfulness. She uses somatic psychotherapies such as Hakomi and Somatic Experiencing to facilitate transitions and shifts that last.

Feel Free to call for a free initial phone consultation on Ondina’s confidential office line (415) 381-1065 or e-mail: Ondinah@gmail.com

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